"For Me, It's Porn."

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"For Me, It's Porn."

Postby Stillstruggling on Mon May 15, 2017 9:37 am

(I've seen these ideas expressed in other posts on this forum, but it's been a long time and I wouldn't know how to find them.)

I was thinking about the whole concept of "porn for me." My biggest trouble has always been what has been referred to as "middle circle behavior," those things I indulge in that aren't technically pornography but are aimed in that direction. I think they're also sometimes called "triggers," if I understand how the term is used here.

I'm personally redefining, just for my own benefit, middle circle behavior. For me, it's pornography, pure and simple. I don't care if my mother, my pastor, or the pope would consider it innocent as a newborn baby. For me, it's wrong.

Here's my working definition.
1. Does this material produce in me feelings of sexual excitement?
2. Did I go looking for it with the intention of producing those feelings?

If the answer to those questions is "yes" then, whatever that material is, however harmless it may objectively be, for me it's porn. And I need to stay away from it.

Interestingly enough, this brings up the fact that what's porn for me may or may not be porn for you and vice versa. (Some material, of course, is purely and simply just garbage. There are things that are indefensible in any form or fashion.)

Just my thoughts, friends. Feel free to add your own.
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Re: "For Me, It's Porn."

Postby drbob1a on Tue May 16, 2017 12:16 am

Nope, I absolutely agree-it's functional porn even if that's not why it was produced.
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Re: "For Me, It's Porn."

Postby constant_vigilance on Tue May 16, 2017 4:00 am

Agreed - that's a great working definition!
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Re: "For Me, It's Porn."

Postby Hope(less) on Sat May 20, 2017 3:43 am

For me it's about lust, whether it's P or not. Does whatever action / material (P, magazines, TV, radio, song lyrics, video games, clothes, etc.) give me a lust hit? If so, I gotta stay away and surrender it.

i like what you wrote about 'looking for it' - if my attitude is to use my will to look for, search out, etc. that material, then whether it's P or not, it is likely to be dangerous to my sobriety and recovery.
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Re: "For Me, It's Porn."

Postby Stillstruggling on Sat May 20, 2017 6:50 am

Hope(less), agreed, and that's a great addition to the thought. Thanks.
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